Help! I can't get out of the Matrix

Are you seeing what is happening around you and wondering: ‘is this life?’ Are you questioning the world, but you believe that there is no way out of the ‘system’? Do you just accept that this is your life? We're raised in a fear-based society and the biggest fear of all has to do with money. It holds you back from living a fulfilled life. Believing you have never ‘enough’ to start living your dream life. Which results in postponing to later and 'accepting' that this unhappiness is part of life. 

This is a story you believe to be true, but what if there is something else possible? What if you can transform your mindset, habits and way of perceiving reality? It is time to grow up and take back responsibility.  

Written by: Melissa Magdalena & Marjolein Louisa     

The Matrix refers to the way most people are living their lives, also known as to be “the rat-race”. Society has created a world where we value ourselves and others based on the amount of money we have. We massively spend money we don’t have in order to gain a higher status. If the neighbor has a beautiful car, you need a better one. All your friends are going on an expensive holiday to far away countries? You definitely can’t stay at home.

In addition, we give away our own individual power and believe we need saving from other places outside ourselves. We take insurances, mortgages, rely on banks, and before you know it…. you’re stuck. You have to make long days at work to keep up with all the expenses that keep rising! That’s what is meant when we talk about “the rat-race”

Life can be incredibly beautiful, yet instead of making the most out of it, most people waste it in suffering and conflict. That’s because you’re programmed to believe this “matrix” is the only way to live. You believe this to be the TRUTH. What if I tell you that these are just stories? People have been telling you that what you’re experiencing is the truth, but is it the truth for you? You’ve been fed these stories since childhood, of course you believe this to be the truth. That’s what we mean with that “you’re programmed”. Not just you, we are all programmed to live in fear and we keep on feeding it. 

Consumerism is the tyranny of our century. Society has created a fear-based mindset, and marketing techniques excel at feeding this ‘parasite’. Purchase this, feel better. Purchase this, become irresistible to the opposite sex. You require this! Buy it now! More, more, more, but when will you declare, "it's enough"? We constantly compare ourselves with others and feel not good enough. Good enough for WHO? 

Here’s the good news. Because, this programming can be broken. You can set yourself free, IF you take a break and actually start asking questions. It requires a mindset shift. The most important note to give is that a mindset shift isn’t done in one day. You’ve been living according to these beliefs for years so adjustment takes time. Be patient. If you're willing to open your eyes the truth will come when you’re ready to receive. Start with these 4 practises:

1. Face fears. “Where there’s fear, that’s where your growth is”. What are these fears telling you? Where is their origin? Face and kill them all.
2. Go inward. What are your values? What makes you truly happy in a day? How much time are you spending on these things
3. Minimalize your news (outward information) intake and instead focus on yourself
4. Lower distractions. What are you doing to keep yourself busy? Are you smoking? Drinking? Excessive buying or watching Netflix? Try to lower these distractions. 

Mortgage literally means death pledge. It makes you reconsider getting one. Many people experience problems affording their housing and it literally feels like a chain. That’s because it is designed to be like this. 

Basically, you have to grow up and reframe your beliefs, your patterns and habits. This means taking back responsibility and ownership of your life instead of falling into childlike behavior. Hoping for somebody else to take care of you and save you. You’re a grown up now. You can make other choices.

If you’re feeling unhappy, stressed, anxious, UNALIVE… then it is up to you to take responsibility. Nobody will come with a magic stick and create your dream life (although we can dive into the power of manifestation, but that’s a whole different story/blog). 

The biggest fear of all times has to do with money. It rules our world and indoctrinates your brain. Maybe you see what is happening and you want to start creating another reality for yourself, but… how? Where to start? 

• Here’s the key question: How much money do you ACTUALLY need? Answering these questions and practises will create awareness: 
  How much money are you spending on a daily/weekly/monthly basis?
• Where are you spending your money?
• Which expenses are fixed and which ones are flexible?
• What is the GAP between your income and outcome? How much do you actually need to cover all the expenses? 

Clarity in your expense pattern might bring new insights. After creating awareness you can start creating conscious change. What are these insights telling your? Where is your money leaking? Could you spend less? When you find the origin of high expenses you can start working on improving that, instead of trying to fill up an ‘empty hole’. You’ll notice that the money will lose its grip on you and you’re becoming more and more free to breathe.

Getting out of the system completely is almost impossible, but maybe that’s not what we should aim for. Consciousness and making choices from a love based mind & heart will already make a huge difference. 

We are here to support you in this transition. Out of our own experience we know how challenging it can be. Especially, when nobody in your surroundings understands your desire for ‘something different’. When everybody in your family believes that having an amazing career is the only way to be successful in life. That money equals happiness. 

We understand. 

You are not alone. It is, however, up to you to take the first step. To take the leap. So, here is our invitation. Reach out and let’s talk. 

With love,

Marjolein & Melissa